Kya manzil aur kya fasle, lugta hai sub fark mit gaye. Hum apni chahat ko paane ke liye kya kuch nahi karte. Lekin kabhi sub dao pe lugakar bhi kuch mile to lugta hai ki humne zindigi se ye to nahi manga tha.
I miss Sarah the most hum us mod pe pahunch gaye the jahan se kisi bhi raste par hum eksaath nahi ja sakte the. Aur shayad hume is baat ka ehsaas humesha se tha. Fir woh meri zindigi mai dobara kyon aayi aur hum fir saath kyon nahi rahe may be becoz two cynic never make an optimist.
Kya hume wahi mila jo hum chahte the. Teen baten saaf hai Sarah is dead, I survived n I am still luking for luv. :-)
Friday, May 27, 2011
Wednesday, July 21, 2010
My Love Story
INTRODUCTION:
HOW IT STARTED:
How could one forget those tense moments in which you keep on craving for the exact reason for someone’s silence n sadness. Yeah, it was my fiancée, with whom I was trying to build my relationship but since the time of engagement, I could sense the sadness that pertains with her but failed to understand. What a guy should do, I also tried to recall all of my stupidities that a girl can think of. :) Not only stated a queue of sorries but also tried to improve things, what a girl may like but no benefit. She may be in this relationship because of family pressure or coz of some break off or etc etc etc. :)
Time when I was feeling low, I saw a chat request in GTalk from a girl named “Sarah”(Name changed). This is the girl coz of whom ,I received a great honour of writing this blog for you guys. :D Looking forward the spice. Sooooooo,
she started discussing about Job opportunities as she had mentioned that she was from some recruitment consultancy firm. Now, our chats veered from professional talks to personnel. Sarah use to provide the ways that can help making me and my fiancée boding more stronger. I blindly followed all the ways that she was suggesting but I was in doubt that ”why is she helping me so much???” I presumed that she might had some connection with my fiancée so I kept following what she said. :)
Well, finally the day had come when we (me and my financee) both gave up and decided to move in different directions. As she was completely unpredictable and also not in the mood to take this relationship in a +ve direction rather just taking it as a compromise. Finally we were out of it and we brokeup.
But on the other side, my friendship with Sarah was growing. At least we knew each other a bit but still, we were just chitchat friend.
OUR FRIENDSHIP:
I am very loquacious but had never talked so much before. At times, we talked for almost 12 hours continuously :D and I am sure, I should be declared world’s most stupid guy if my mom and dad could listen all of our gossips. Our friendship started growing with time and more we talk, more we come closer to each other but we never realized the same. Since, we both spent lots of time living alone. So, now we got a friend to share our lifetime experiences. Mostly none of us were interested to listen to each other coz we both had so many things to talk about. We just wait for our chance to speak. In fact at times we ask the other to repeat the last sentence, just to confirm if he/she was actually listening or still busy thinking what he/she had to speak in his/her chance. :)
We were very good friend by now and thought when we both were in a verge to get marry so why not with each other.
FAMILY'S REACTION:
Its time to put this proposal in front of parents. Aha! here our traditional Indian films comes into the picture. Well, like any other Bollywood masala her parents were deadly against this relationship. Yeah, you are right it is because of caste. She was from typical JAAT family and I belong to Agrawal Bania family. :)
I feel myself blessed with a beautiful family. Everyone was in my favour. My Mom, DAD, Brothers, Friends, Maternal uncle, Grand Father, Mausi, they all were in my favour. Someone said to go for court marriage and settled down in some other city or country. Some advised to come to hometown, so that no one can harm you. My Mom said to give her home address etc for “Tantrik Pooza” to make her father in the agreement for the marriage.
Yeah I know it looks so filmy but God has blessed me with such a beautiful family and it was not worth to put them in trouble. I could not run away leaving them behind. Secondly “Bhag Jao” It looks so “Azeeb”. It sounds so weired that I ran away with a girl aah no no no nooo!!
Well, keeping the hope alive, I decided to give another try to convince her parents. In continuation of that effort, my brother and sister in law dared to visit her parent's home along with his friend, to put my proposal formally in front of her family. In spite being aware of the fact that her father is ready with a loaded gun as it was a matter of honour regarding his caste. ;-) My sister in law tried her best to convince them but no result. He was just curious to use his Two “Nulli” Gun without bullets as his tongue itself was big bullet.
Finally we accepted the fact that her father won’t agree to this marriage and can go beyond humanity. Then, she took a stand and rejected my offer letter. :( In those days she was very much tortured, her personal belongings like mobile, laptop, job all were banned. She was not permitted to visit anyone outside.
This was my second filmy and tragic love story experience. Yes for me it is filmy love story because I am a male and male is suppose to take it lightly. But If I think for Sarah it was really a big mess for her. :( Where her own parents could not understand her and her bother who is settled in US was also against her.
You could not believe that she never ever said that she loves me and committed herself for the marriage. We met at the most 4-5 times, just to confirm whether we are reflecting the same personality as on phone or chat. :)
FILMY SCENES: :)
Sarah’s angry old father “KUTTE KAMEENE MAIN TERA KHOON PIJAUNGA AGAR TUNE MERI BETI KA PEECHA NA CHODA TO”. He terrified me by saying that he will give money to some "GUNDA" to kill me and my family and that's the real entry of my heroin lovely Sarah. :D She took some poisonous liquid to threaten her father. Hey hey hey!! cool down. She just had it in her hand not gulped it. After all, she was my friend. ;-)
AFTER EFFECTS - WENT TO BALAJI, SALASAR AND PSYCHOLOGIST:
We finally decided to end up this friendship being unaware of the fact that the after-effects will be so silly. We were actually addicted of our talks and this sudden break off brought us into anxiety against life and against this society. Initially we were very disappointed and as you know time heals everything.
I also followed all the traditional methods to cope up with break off as what generally one should do after the break off. I did lots of shopping that includes paintings, flower pots with colourful flowers (To fill some natural colour in my life :-p). I went on trekking and this was the first time, I could not enjoy my passion, so disappointing!! :( I listened lots of sad songs, Cried (Yes off course it helps). So basically, I tried my best to get out of that trauma.
Her parents took her to Balaji and Salasar for pooja activities to get rid of any supernatural power in case that had gripped Sarah but couldn’t prove to be fruitful.
Now, she went silent. They finally took her to psychiatrist and provided with medication. :)
I think I should not disclose it, Aah! anyways, how does it matters anymore. So here I go, and the news is that I also visited to a psychologist seeking some help to move on from this mental block and you wont believe, it was magic, two beautiful girls had given me relaxation therapy and I felt completely out of my break off. :D Now, I am still looking for love.
HOW IT ENDED:
Finally, she has decided to marry as per her parents agreement coz she was unable to manage so much pressure anymore and here she goes. She married a handsome and smart guy. I tried to convince her not to give up because we still has a chance to convince her parents but no benefit coz by now she had made up her mind. So, that is why we stopped talking to move on.
WHERE WE ARE NOW:
She could not adjust herself in sasural for long and guy could not understand his personal life’s priority (Basically so called marriage rules. :D) Finally she came back to home and waiting to get things settled down. I came to know all this from her friend.
I am not sure where I am right now but what I know is, I am still looking for love. :)
Thanks:
My hearty thanks to my family, my eldest sister in law and brother, Ashu my cousin, Deeply my cousin, Rohit my friend, Daya Aunty Sarah's aunty, Manisha & Ramneek Sarah's friend and my friend Anubha not only to support me but to understand me as well.
Always Keep Simling :)
~Prateek
This story is perfect blend of bollywood masala hits like Jab We Met (coping up with my Fiancée oops ex Fiancée), Love Aazkal, DDLJ or Bombay (Coz of Tragedy) and finally “the end”, the end was similar to any weird tragic Indian drama. Huh. ;)
So, presenting before you the mixture of Karan Johar + Yash Chopra production based story line with a tadka of traditional Indian love story + family drama + Tragedy.
BUT....... ITS MINE :)
HOW IT STARTED:
How could one forget those tense moments in which you keep on craving for the exact reason for someone’s silence n sadness. Yeah, it was my fiancée, with whom I was trying to build my relationship but since the time of engagement, I could sense the sadness that pertains with her but failed to understand. What a guy should do, I also tried to recall all of my stupidities that a girl can think of. :) Not only stated a queue of sorries but also tried to improve things, what a girl may like but no benefit. She may be in this relationship because of family pressure or coz of some break off or etc etc etc. :)
Time when I was feeling low, I saw a chat request in GTalk from a girl named “Sarah”(Name changed). This is the girl coz of whom ,I received a great honour of writing this blog for you guys. :D Looking forward the spice. Sooooooo,
she started discussing about Job opportunities as she had mentioned that she was from some recruitment consultancy firm. Now, our chats veered from professional talks to personnel. Sarah use to provide the ways that can help making me and my fiancée boding more stronger. I blindly followed all the ways that she was suggesting but I was in doubt that ”why is she helping me so much???” I presumed that she might had some connection with my fiancée so I kept following what she said. :)
Well, finally the day had come when we (me and my financee) both gave up and decided to move in different directions. As she was completely unpredictable and also not in the mood to take this relationship in a +ve direction rather just taking it as a compromise. Finally we were out of it and we brokeup.
But on the other side, my friendship with Sarah was growing. At least we knew each other a bit but still, we were just chitchat friend.
OUR FRIENDSHIP:
I am very loquacious but had never talked so much before. At times, we talked for almost 12 hours continuously :D and I am sure, I should be declared world’s most stupid guy if my mom and dad could listen all of our gossips. Our friendship started growing with time and more we talk, more we come closer to each other but we never realized the same. Since, we both spent lots of time living alone. So, now we got a friend to share our lifetime experiences. Mostly none of us were interested to listen to each other coz we both had so many things to talk about. We just wait for our chance to speak. In fact at times we ask the other to repeat the last sentence, just to confirm if he/she was actually listening or still busy thinking what he/she had to speak in his/her chance. :)
We were very good friend by now and thought when we both were in a verge to get marry so why not with each other.
FAMILY'S REACTION:
Its time to put this proposal in front of parents. Aha! here our traditional Indian films comes into the picture. Well, like any other Bollywood masala her parents were deadly against this relationship. Yeah, you are right it is because of caste. She was from typical JAAT family and I belong to Agrawal Bania family. :)
I feel myself blessed with a beautiful family. Everyone was in my favour. My Mom, DAD, Brothers, Friends, Maternal uncle, Grand Father, Mausi, they all were in my favour. Someone said to go for court marriage and settled down in some other city or country. Some advised to come to hometown, so that no one can harm you. My Mom said to give her home address etc for “Tantrik Pooza” to make her father in the agreement for the marriage.
Yeah I know it looks so filmy but God has blessed me with such a beautiful family and it was not worth to put them in trouble. I could not run away leaving them behind. Secondly “Bhag Jao” It looks so “Azeeb”. It sounds so weired that I ran away with a girl aah no no no nooo!!
Well, keeping the hope alive, I decided to give another try to convince her parents. In continuation of that effort, my brother and sister in law dared to visit her parent's home along with his friend, to put my proposal formally in front of her family. In spite being aware of the fact that her father is ready with a loaded gun as it was a matter of honour regarding his caste. ;-) My sister in law tried her best to convince them but no result. He was just curious to use his Two “Nulli” Gun without bullets as his tongue itself was big bullet.
Finally we accepted the fact that her father won’t agree to this marriage and can go beyond humanity. Then, she took a stand and rejected my offer letter. :( In those days she was very much tortured, her personal belongings like mobile, laptop, job all were banned. She was not permitted to visit anyone outside.
This was my second filmy and tragic love story experience. Yes for me it is filmy love story because I am a male and male is suppose to take it lightly. But If I think for Sarah it was really a big mess for her. :( Where her own parents could not understand her and her bother who is settled in US was also against her.
You could not believe that she never ever said that she loves me and committed herself for the marriage. We met at the most 4-5 times, just to confirm whether we are reflecting the same personality as on phone or chat. :)
FILMY SCENES: :)
Sarah’s angry old father “KUTTE KAMEENE MAIN TERA KHOON PIJAUNGA AGAR TUNE MERI BETI KA PEECHA NA CHODA TO”. He terrified me by saying that he will give money to some "GUNDA" to kill me and my family and that's the real entry of my heroin lovely Sarah. :D She took some poisonous liquid to threaten her father. Hey hey hey!! cool down. She just had it in her hand not gulped it. After all, she was my friend. ;-)
AFTER EFFECTS - WENT TO BALAJI, SALASAR AND PSYCHOLOGIST:
We finally decided to end up this friendship being unaware of the fact that the after-effects will be so silly. We were actually addicted of our talks and this sudden break off brought us into anxiety against life and against this society. Initially we were very disappointed and as you know time heals everything.
I also followed all the traditional methods to cope up with break off as what generally one should do after the break off. I did lots of shopping that includes paintings, flower pots with colourful flowers (To fill some natural colour in my life :-p). I went on trekking and this was the first time, I could not enjoy my passion, so disappointing!! :( I listened lots of sad songs, Cried (Yes off course it helps). So basically, I tried my best to get out of that trauma.
Her parents took her to Balaji and Salasar for pooja activities to get rid of any supernatural power in case that had gripped Sarah but couldn’t prove to be fruitful.
Now, she went silent. They finally took her to psychiatrist and provided with medication. :)
I think I should not disclose it, Aah! anyways, how does it matters anymore. So here I go, and the news is that I also visited to a psychologist seeking some help to move on from this mental block and you wont believe, it was magic, two beautiful girls had given me relaxation therapy and I felt completely out of my break off. :D Now, I am still looking for love.
HOW IT ENDED:
Finally, she has decided to marry as per her parents agreement coz she was unable to manage so much pressure anymore and here she goes. She married a handsome and smart guy. I tried to convince her not to give up because we still has a chance to convince her parents but no benefit coz by now she had made up her mind. So, that is why we stopped talking to move on.
WHERE WE ARE NOW:
She could not adjust herself in sasural for long and guy could not understand his personal life’s priority (Basically so called marriage rules. :D) Finally she came back to home and waiting to get things settled down. I came to know all this from her friend.
I am not sure where I am right now but what I know is, I am still looking for love. :)
Thanks:
My hearty thanks to my family, my eldest sister in law and brother, Ashu my cousin, Deeply my cousin, Rohit my friend, Daya Aunty Sarah's aunty, Manisha & Ramneek Sarah's friend and my friend Anubha not only to support me but to understand me as well.
Always Keep Simling :)
~Prateek
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